I have argued in the past that Men Going Their Own Way (MGTOW) is the most significant element of the Men’s Rights Movement.
It is now obvious that this is an understatement. It is not just the most significant, it is currently the only non-violent and practical path of male self-actualization within our culture.
Terms like “marriage strike,” “failure to launch,” and “Peter Pan Syndrome,” reveal rising public awareness of men leaving the path of Protect, Provide, and Die (PPD). “Marriage strike” comes the closest to describing the current trend, but fails in its scope of understanding. It’s not a strike. Strikes exist as a temporary stage of negotiation.
Men refusing to marry is big news. It’s the compliant, reliable and long-disposable dog’s-bodies of empire, refusing their exploitation. It is the quiet slave revolt.
And the slaves, revolting as the “blue pill” world finds them, are forging a new path for self-identity in the 21st century. We revolting fellows call ourselves MGTOW: Men, going our own way.
For many MGTOW men, rejection of coercive institutions (including marriage) is about reclaiming control over our own lives. As important as this motivation is, the revolution of male identity is dwarfed by the wider cultural impact of MGTOW.
Our present culture runs on the appropriated income, coerced labor, and the corpses of “good” men. It runs on the stolen blood and the appropriated money of married men. Marriage, in every Western nation, is a set of laws primarily advantaging women at the expense of men. By laws, of course, what we mean are opinions with loaded guns backing them up.
A married man is one who has agreed with the laws which provide for the appropriation of his income and enforced separation from his children at a woman’s command. If he can’t continue to finance a woman who has used the family court to discard him, he will enjoy a stay in his government’s jails.
But what if a man practicing MGTOW finds a woman who understands the issues of the movement, who loves him, and even supports his views on MGTOW? If he were to a marry her, even if she never pulls the trigger, he has agreed to load the gun, put it into her hand, and point it at his own head. A marrying man is no longer MGTOW.
Some MRAs, affecting a philosophical approach, say “men going their own way” can be whatever a self-describing MGTOW man chooses. They say MGTOW can include the coercive owner-slave relationship between a man, his wife, and the armed employees of his government.
As long as he chooses it himself, marriage is indeed “his own way.” Thus, married men can be MGTOW too. And a man can also call himself “free” who puts the handcuffs on his own wrists and walks into the jailhouse of his own free will.
Does anyone else think this sounds like reality-denying rationalization?
MGTOW is dangerous and corrosive to current social reality.
This danger is recognized by those who try to maintain the mainstream social narrative. Demeaning the MGTOW phenomenon with terms like Peter Pan Syndrome is understandable and expected.
Much more shocking and disappointing are the voices who formerly advocated for men who also now insist that marriage and MGTOW are compatible.
According to them, the Men Going Their Own Way who insist on an exclusion of marriage from the movement are Luddites lacking vision.
This, I submit, is how a movement is subverted and rendered impotent.
Men not even identifying as MRA or MGTOW have made our culture’s narrators coin terms like “Peter Pan Syndrome” and “failure to launch.” Attempts to shame men back onto the treadmill are a clear signal of the power of self-selected male identity in our culture. Until now, our society has relied on the willing sacrifice of male bodies for the benefit of higher caste members of society.
Those who refuse to marry are the disposable refusing to be disposable any longer.
But some within the Men’s Rights Movement are repeating the claim that MGTOW and marriage are compatible. This is how MGTOW can be neutralized as a path for the self-determinacy of men, in a culture running, until now, on their corpses.
Well, not so much “theirs.” Actually, your corpses: your stolen income and your blood.
There may have been a point a decade ago where we could argue that MGTOW and marriage were compatible – so long as you find the “right” girl or live within the “right” nation. Many early MGTOW thinkers thought so.
Time and experience has revealed the error in that approach. Until marriage laws and customs are rewritten, from top to bottom, MGTOW and marriage will never be compatible. Those in the MRM who dispute this are either delusional, or they are straight-up lying.