As men continue leaving gynocentric social norms, a growing number of individuals are trying to brand themselves by wearing the MGTOW label as if it is a cool club jacket. Many such individuals have not done the self discovery and personal growth required. Because of this, they lack understanding and bring ideas into their cool-kid version which are incoherent in the context of MGTOW philosophy.
Every recognizable version of MGTOW rejects marriage as the most symbolic of gynocentric conventions. The philosophical path to MGTOW begins by dumping female-supplied status as an element of male identity.
The conceptual hierarchy of alpha males and beta males is an example of female-conferred masculine identity. Some recent joining-the-cool-club MGTOWs have identified themselves as Alpha-MGTOW. This is a juvenile effort to elevate themselves over other men. It would be no more than comically embarrassing to the proponents of it, except that men newly waking up to MGTOW risk being led right back into a state of self-destructive delusion.
The delusional argument is that men who adopt a MGTOW path while maintaining sexually active lives are either “true” MGTOW, or “apex” MGTOW or alpha MGTOW. In contrast to this, men who have been less sexually active are dubbed beta MGTOW. These men are supposedly no different from involuntary celibates who self identify as “true forced loneliness”.
Some readers may have no direct knowledge of the “true forced loneliness” idea, so a brief exposition is necessary. The label of TFL is taken by a small number of men as a badge of identity. These are men who have experienced female rejection and have internalized the loser identity heaped onto them. But nobody is a loser unless they, themselves, believe in whatever label is assigned to them.
MGTOW and its related path of self discovery would be an excellent and positive path for any TFL guy still buying into the misery and loneliness of that applied label. To make that shift, abandonment of outward sourced identity and pursuit of personal growth is necessary. This change must be self-initiated. I call it the pursuit of personal awesomeness.
The sad Emo boys of the manosphere have to drop their sad Emo act and the TFL identity that goes along with it. If you call yourself a loser, and buy into it, you can expect to have the miserable life you have chosen.
Returning to the concept of either apex, or alpha-MGTOW, this concept is just as problematic and incoherent. Men who claim their supposed success with women makes them a superior version of Men Going Their Own Way show a failure of understanding. They are buying back into the cultural convention of positive male identity supplied by feminine approval. This is the fundamental social philosophy rejected in a MGTOW path to male self actualization. As a commentator on the MGTOW phenomenon, it is for the benefit of men who are stepping away from the shaming tactics and supplied positive identity that these words are written. A man who claims that women’s approval via sexual access makes him an “apex MGTOW” might just be an irredeemable simpleton but I’m going to assume they are salvageable.
To those so-called Alpha-MGTOWs, your journey hasn’t even begun. When you stop equating your value with how women respond to you then you are ready to join the conversation. Until then, you are just another walking target waiting for a woman to grift you.
Thank you all for your very kind attention.