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Trust Women

Guys, you’re screwed.

You might think you’re the ones doing the screwing. After all, this is the story repeated to you, and about you in almost all current mainstream discussions of male and female sexual interface. Rape culture is a fantasy about your sexuality. The so-called objectification of women is widely protested. And if you’re unclear about just what that is, it’s you, brother, turning women into non-person things for your gratification. It’s certainly not the conversion of you into a cash dispensing appliance, in which femininity is used to manipulate your spending and behaviour.

And when it get’s down to actual humping, who’s the gatekeeper there? Who is in charge of whether boy and girl get down on a saturday night. If you think men are calling the shots, you’re delusional. Men canvass, and beg, and maneuver and manipulate, and pay, and pander to get a leg over but it’s when she wants to screw that you’re going to get some. And when she doesn’t want any, you are going to be patient, and say that’s ok. And if you don’t like that, we have jail for guys who cant take a hint.

But women don’t just control sex. They also have the only legal voice in reproduction. After all, it’s her body, and therefore, her choice. That jargon is still widely used in the political argument over access to on demand abortion. Left out of the popular political rhetoric is that if it’s his wallet, it’s also her choice. It’s his semen, but also her choice, and his desire to not be a father against his will, that’s her legal choice too.

Did I mention, guys, that you’re screwed? And not in the fun way.

Because what if she uses your semen to get pregnant, whether she stole it from your condom, whether she lied about being on the pill, or whether it was actually just accidental. Why do we will still describe her choice to become pregnant and her choice to remain pregnant with the words “he got her pregnant”.

There is no self actualization in that for her, she’s a passive receptacle of your all powerful sexual organ. And that this bears no resemblance to the real power dynamic of sexual gatekeeping doesn’t matter at all. This is the unexamined myth. The story that you are the decider. Why else would we have myths like rape culture, patriarchy theory. Why do we have an idiotic concept that men sexually manipulated by pictures of perky boobs are turning women into objects, rather than those men being exploited?

But screwing and baby making are barely even the beginning. We also have the courts, the education system, entertainment industry, government and family courts all informed by female-centric ideology. This wouldn’t be a problem, except that this ideology includes an irrational malice towards men.

Based only on the accusation of a woman, our society will destroy the life and livelihood of any man of who it is whispered: rapist. Conviction in a court of law is not needed, accusation is guilt.

Domestic abuse in which the victim does not leave after one incident means it is two people, and not just one responsible for the continuation of a violent relationship. To presume that an adult woman in such situations are powerless is to cast for her the role of a child.
And intimate partner violence’s propaganda, in denial of equal commission by men and women, uses the misleading term violence against women.

Due to populist myth and scorn of male identity, women face little consequence for the use of lies about threats or violence to strip men of their freedom, property or children.

But, of course, in observing this obvious fact – we are told that of course women don’t lie about such things. Because, um, what they’re innately innocent or something. But this rebuttal denigrates women – denying them their full humanity, which includes the capability to be just as evil as the next villain you can name.

But to conclude that women are simply, or innately evil is to miss the point entirely. Women as a group are neither inherently “bad” or “good”, just as men too are also simply people. Some are malicious, some are good, but all are flawed to some degree regardless of their sex.

But, where advantage can be taken by individuals within a system, it will be. Because of this, and the climate vilifying of men elevating of women; the greater incentive for allowable exploitation lies with women. So while there are many women of amoral character, it is the socially and legally tilted playing field of social reality which invalidates men’s ability to trust women. Not the positive, negative, or the indifferent character of individual women.

As a relationship fails, each person exiting that relationship is going to evaluate and pursue new paths to meet their financial and emotional needs. The same needs which were formerly being fulfilled by that relationship. For women, casual theft of the man’s income is one of the easiest options, without a negative stigma, and with public institutions to enforce his compliance. That so many women take this path should surprise nobody. If men had the same options to exploit women with the cheerful participation of the courts and financial system, then men would earn a reputation equal to that of women. Where advantage can be taken, it will be.

The odds in this system are stacked against any outcome except betrayal and destruction. Certainly, many women are not unethical, nor are seeking to exploit men’s sub-person status in society. Unfortunately, many women are quite pleased to exploit male destructive outcomes on an opportunistic basis. There is no social or legal de-motivator for those who would exploit the system women now enjoy.
But worse than lack of disincentive for harmful behaviour is a social narrative which provides positive feedback for antisocial conduct. That narrative relies on on a maintained belief in the victim status of women. Attack rhetoric about toxic masculinity and the suffering of women justifies her retaliation against an endless male war against women.

The reality of no actual anti woman war is of no consequence, in social reality. The woman filing a false accusation is noble – standing up for her rights, and not simply a predatory criminal exploiting the credulity of the public and the courts.

In the system where all men are bad, and all women are good, she is a heroic. She becomes the brave victim who turned the tables on a predator when she stole your house, or had you jailed on a fraudulent charge.
A quirk of human behaviour is that people given positive social feedback for an action will believe that action is noble, even if it is objectively monstrous.

So why would she even feel guilty, when her social group lauds her heroism for what is arguably criminal, predatory, and amoral opportunism?

And men can’t reasonably trust women in this system.

But that social system, or the social reality contributing to this problem is built on a set of overlapping myths. The first of these is the idea of the innate goodness of women. This fairly simplistic conception rises out of the attitude of worship by small children of their mothers.

Where a child’s mother is the primary caregiver, the first source of nourishment, it’s easy to see how the female becomes a universal good.

This shows up in many ways, including the tender years doctrine, in female goddess rhetoric, and other idiotic but still popular ideas.

The idea that women are innately innocent and non-threatening helps tilt the playing field on which all fault is male, and all victimhood is female. And yes, I know it sounds stupid when expressed in simple terms. It sounds stupid because it is stupid.

For some men shedding their cultural programming replace myth of women’s innate victimhood with the idea of female innate evil. And departure from the naive belief in the fundamental good and innocence of women can inform a more self preserving behaviour in men. But it is not a step towards comprehension to replace one innate behaviour with simply another innate behaviour.

But the problem of trust in relations between men and women is still unanswered.

If men and women are going to carry on together (and they are) and end up in each other’s lives, beds and dwellings, (and they are) then an alternative model is needed. And this model must depart from the vision of female innate purity, and malevolent male aggression.

And it will not be women now in control of social reality who make this change. Why would they, when a myth of their own innate innocence and natural goodness serves them as a social caste so well?

The problem of trust in relationships is a problem for men, which men will have to solve.

One approach is to treat women as if they are men.

Whatever she is doing, whatever she is saying – here is the question for you to ask yourself.

Would you accept her behaviour if she was a man?

Rape Culture-Culture is for You

We’ve been repeatedly told both by name brand feminists, as well as non-feminists practicing modern chivalry that we’re all a part of a “rape culture”. The claim is also that “rape culture” whatever that might be – is a central feature of our society.

But what is rape culture?

It’s the name for a theory that we live in a culture that enables male rapists and shames female victims of rape.

According to conventional thinking, the term was coined by second wave feminists, to describe acceptance of the rape of women. This is a popular but incorrect belief. The term rape culture came from the black civil rights movement of the 1960’s to describe apathy toward the rape of American prison inmates.

The terminology was a powerful encapsulation of the indifference towards the civil rights of inmates within the prison system who were black men. Recognizing the power of that civil rights rhetoric, the women’s movement stole it to describe their claim of apathy towards female rape in civilian society.

And the feminist version of history is now the official version.

And according to them, we are all a part of what they call a rape culture. Susan Brownmiller’s 1975 book “Against our will” defined it as “nothing more or less than a conscious process of intimidation by which all men keep all women in a state of fear.”

Did you catch that? All women living in a state of fear. Not most women, not some women, all of them. And all men, including you, are responsible for it because of a conscious process on your part.

This version of the feminist definition of rape culture may be the most relevant to our current understanding of the term. Despite the 1975 publication, it is still current because Brownmiller’s contributions to organs like Huffpo, salon and the Washington post still promote the book in her contributor’s byline.

It’s this version of that ideology, which now informs a social and legal climate on American college campuses. This version creates the climate in which an accusation of sexual misconduct made by a female becomes automatic guilt by accusation. Through sublimation of that fantasy into broader cultural assumptions, you don’t even need to be a feminist to bang that drum.

In 2011 The US department of education issued a directive framed as a dear colleague letter. This message to colleges was that if they wanted to keep receiving title IX funding, they’d better handle accusations of sexual misconduct with nonjudicial due-process abrogating star chambers. That directive, followed by others is what now informs official policy on college and university campuses.

We are told that college campuses are where the strongest manifestation of rape culture resides. The same colleges which now feature a 65% female population, as that number grows under female favouring affirmative action. And women continue to enroll, taking on massive debt to do so. But they’re taking on that debt so they can participate in what we keep hearing is a female victimizing rape culture.

Does this sound like a coherent view of reality to any of you?

The published data from the DOJ criminal victimization survey shows that rape is the lowest incidenced violent crime tracked by law enforcement.

Despite that fact we, as a society now operate on the default assumption that rape culture is real . The idea is that rape facilitated by cultural assumptions at the same time that rape is an egregious social and criminal offence. So is rape accepted? Or is it a major offence? It can’t be both.

The fact is, rape culture is a false belief nobody except a moron buys into. but due to social pressure to appease feminine sensitivity the mainstream of our culture continues to pretend it is real. We don’t actually live in a rape culture, but we live in a narrative of rape culture that we have to agree with or face severe censure.

What we actually have is a rape-culture-culture. That is not an accidentally repeated word

This is why for a man on a college campus, his standing as a viable person depends on the good behaviour of each female on campus who knows his name.

The slightest offense, whether real or imagined can result in an accusation of sexual misconduct. A sexual encounter which didn’t fulfill every expectation of the female can produce an accusation of sexual misconduct. A man who avoids a sexual encounter that a woman wanted can also result in an accusation of sexual misconduct against him. A girl who did something stupid, like missing an important exam because she slept in, or forgot to write down the date can also result in an accusation of sexual misconduct. That accusation made against a male student whose name she might have picked from a list of the other students in one of her classes.

In any of these accusations of sexual misconduct, there will be no judicial inquiry focusing on evidence. There will be no due process. There will be no presumption of innocence that underlies the western world’s concept of justice. There will be an accusation. There will be a star chamber staffed by college employees and not legal experts. And there will be the destruction of that male student’s academic life and future career.

This is what we now call a rape culture.

The man named in an accusation is the one who’s going to go through that no due process grinder. He is the one who will have his academic career terminated.

This is the part nobody seems to grasp.

The accusation made against him is an attack. It is an attack made on a student, using the elaborate and nearly unstoppable college administrative system. It is a weapon of destruction which is triggered by a few spoken words. I was raped.

In the current system I was sexually assaulted does not mean “I am a victim, help me”. It now means “I am the executioner, destroy him”. The female idea of “I am a victim”, now has an entirely new meaning. It means, “I am filled with wrath, and the enemy I point to shall be besieged to his doom”.

The accusation is really just an order for execution and that order will be carried out by the a school’s administrative staff.

If you are accused, you are assaulted.

Your privacy will be stripped away. Your reputation as a decent human being will be stolen, discarded, and burned. Your education will be taken from you. Your social connections will be destroyed. You will be isolated, and attacked, and smeared. Your job prospects will be closed off. Your accomplishments will be taken away from you.

And it will never stop. The assault on your person will go on for years, and years.

It is a tyrant saying – there is the enemy, destroy him. That boy, attack him, end his life, foreclose his future.

A woman on a college campus who pronounces herself a victim of sexual assault is not a victim, but in fact a sexual predator. She is the rapist. And she is using the system of the schools gender studies faculties and administration as her tool of rape.

An actual victim would have gone to the police.

A victim of a real crime would use the courts, not the administrative staff of a business whose products are massive debt and academic credentials.

This message is for young men on college campuses you are not at risk of being accused of a crime. Being accused of a crime is what happens when somebody makes a report to the police department, whether truthfully or falsely.

What you are actually at risk of is being sexually assaulted or raped through an elaborate college administrative system. This has almost nothing to with your behavior whether inappropriate or not. You are the target of a system designed to attack you from afar in secret, like a sniper shooting from behind concealment.

It is not my goal to dismantle this administrative machine. It is not my goal to drive reform. It is my goal to inform you that rape culture culture is real, and you are the target.

But you’re not the victim. You’d better not be the victim. If you become the victim, I’m going to blame you.

That’s right, I’m going to blame you for being the victim, and all the social justice warriors in the world – the same ones who cry victim-blaming like its a capital crime, they’re going to blame you too.

An accusation of sexual misconduct on a college campus is not an accusation, it’s an assault. More precisely, a sexual assault on you, using administrative proxy.

And it is a violent assault which will not stop until we stop treating it as an accusation, and begin correctly responding to it as violence.

Thank you for your kind attention, and have a lovely day.

You will hate women

I have been studying feminism as an outsider to that ideology for many years – and the following has become clear to me, as I’m sure it is obvious to many of you.

If you are not a misogynist, it is the goal of modern feminism to turn you into one. And they are not fucking around. This is where the feminists put on their A game.

You might not hate women. You certainly weren’t born with hatred in your heart, and if you’ve managed to reach adulthood without a towering contempt for the female sex, feminists will change that. They will not rest until you hate women.

In contrast to men, women, of course cannot be sexist. The argument is that sexism is not simply prejudice, stereotyping, and discrimination, on the basis of sex. According to feminists sexism is prejudice combined with power.

Because women apparently lack the institutional power that men have, they can’t be sexist.

To accept the feminist definition of sexism we must accept that women lack institutional power, secondly we must also accept the claim that sexism doesn’t exist without the added ingredient of power to compliment the bigotry of prejudice and negative stereotyping. Unfortunately this redefinition is nonsense based on a factually false claim.

What’s false? The idea that women lack institutional power. They’re 55 to 65 percent of registered voters. Women control most of the spending of disposable income, regardless of who earns that money. Women control almost all of children’s early development – shaping the minds of everyone in each generation of our society. Women dominate elementary school education, dominating children during their formative years. Women control the family courts. Women are catered to by modern entertainment media, and the post secondary educational climate. Women dominate the HR departments of most medium and large corporations.Women are enshrined as a protected class in national and international human rights law, and have an entire department of the United Nations devoted to their interests. But, apparently, women lack political, social, financial, and institutional power.

And the claim, the one that women lack institutional power – and that sexism doesn’t exist without the added power component is used to justify rampant, blatant, overt, over the top sexism against men of such naked character that it is impossible to distinguish from parody by outsiders.

If that definition doesn’t insult your intelligence and sicken you, then being told you’re a sexist pig because you smiled while being male is sure to have you reaching for your in-flight puke bag.

The project to cultivate your hatred of women is where Feminists really roll out their A game.

But of course, the dictionary says that feminism is nothing more and nothing less than the movement seeking equality for women. Not equality between men and women, no, just equality for women. They’ve so far not been clever enough to cover up that little reveal either.

Pay no attention to the legal activists working their ovaries to the bone to legalize the murder of men by women. Pay no attention to the lies of the domestic violence campaigners pretending that DV is not reciprocal, and hammering the public with endless reiterations of the slogan violence against women.

The guy with defensive slash marks on his hands must have said something to make her attack him, he probably deserved it. Deserved it. Deserved it. Those wounds on his hands and forearms, he deserved that. Fuck him. He has no right to live without fear of somebody smaller than him, who he’s afraid to even defend himself from. He deserved it.

Do you hate women yet? This is all on their behalf, and so far, they’re not opposing it. I hear Katy Perry and Kaley Cuoco have both said they’re not feminists. At least, as public figures they’ve made it clear that the big F brand name isn’t going to increase their take home pay. feminists for their part have executed public shaming campaigns against these cultivated entertainer-personas.

On the other hand, celebrity millionaire actress and United Nations Feminist Ambassador Emma Watson has now reiterated the call for men to put women above themselves, and has cited the multiply debunked wage gap as reason for men’s participation in the gender ideology that hates men. Because of a contrived difference in women’s income, from the mouth of a millionaire actress. Get on your knees and serve your betters boys, because Hermione said so.

Are you insulted yet? Even after the UN Women’s Goodwill Ambassador admitted that feminism was synonymous with the hatred of men, she, in the same speech before the UN called on men to put themselves last and women first.

And apparently, if you do put women first, by holding open doors, practicing chivalry, or even just smiling, you’re as much of a sexist as somebody who actively denigrates and disparages women.
This is a conclusion published in Canada’s National Post, in the UK Telegraph, in the Daily Mail, in several social science publications, as well as in the online satire website, the Onion – all in the same week. So, if you’re male and a sexist bigot, you’re a sexist bigot. Also, if you’re male and not a sexist bigot, you’re still a sexist bigot. Even if you’re so emotionally well balanced that you are truly indifferent to women, if you’re male, you’re probably also a sexist bigot.

Of course, there is nothing quite like an open ended and non-stop public narrative of accusation to drive a climate of dislike for those espousing it. And if you disagree with feminism, then you certainly must hate women. Right?

I told you they’re not fucking around, didn’t I? – the goal of feminism is to cultivate your hatred of women. And they’ll do it while telling you, it’s just about equality, stupid. Can’t you read what it says right in the dictionary, stupid?

How about sex, you know, one of the basic needs all human beings share – well, if you’re male, you’re not just doing it wrong – you’re likely doing it so badly wrong that your physical expression of affection and intimacy is being redefined as a violent crime and you are a criminal offender. Affirmative consent is a legal standard being adopted all over North America which decrees that sex without ongoing, repeated and unambiguous statements of consent, and consent seeking is not consensual sex at all, but rape. In the real world, adults having mutually consensual sex – and who are not mentally deranged by social justice programming, use body language, nonverbal cues and indirect communication in sexual encounters. This means that without a ridiculous mood-killing pantomime of dora-the-explorer style mother-may-I consent kabuki dancing – everybody in the history of the world who bumped their fluffy bits together was either raping or being raped. If you’re not sure which one you are, rapist or rape victim, just check in your pants to see if you have a penis. Rapist!

This isn’t just a fucktarded social standard being adopted by the mental defectives calling themselves social justice warriors, this is manifesting in law. According to one political proponent of this legal fuckery, one of the best features of the legal standard of affirmative consent is that there is no way to actually establish that consent exists in a sexual encounter. Yes, that’s apparently on the plus side. If you’re going to plug and play, you’re going to do it under threat of imprisonment, your life’s destruction and possibly death, based on the whimof whoever you may or may not hook up with. But only if you’re male – obviously, because although women can and occasionally do force, threaten and coerce sex from men, that’s not rape, because men cant be raped.

Oh yeah, and if you’re aware of all this, and decide rationally to just not get involved with women, because it’s a minefield of vicious mind-fuckery – then you’re a pussy. You’re not a rational self possessed man, nope. You’re just a little bitch, according to the few women who’ve even bothered to comment on any of this.

Do you hate women yet, because they’re not done with you you unless, or until you do.
And I’m not even opposed to it. In fact, I encourage this to continue, and I support feminists in their program. I wish them great success in their ongoing effort to cultivate and to amplify your hatred of women. They want you to hate women, and I want them to succeed in cultivating that hatred in you.

Rationality is clearly not going to work. There is a social movement which has, for more than a century – been repeatedly pointing out a pattern of systematic injustice, marginalization and purposeful dehumanization of men. That is to say, dehumanization of you. This social movement has used logic, evidence, carefully sourced statistics and appeals to higher reason and compassion as it’s principal strategies.

So far it has succeeded only in cultivating public contempt for it’s campaigners. Almost nobody is waking up to a rational rejection of social and legal standards that dehumanize men. Although everybody knows about realities like the destruction of males in family court, or the male suicide rate which quadruples that of females – they don’t give a fuck. Not even men care, as long as it’s not themselves on the chopping block.

The 19th century philosopher and historian Ernest Belfort Bax wrote extensively on what he called the legal subjugation of men. Bax was both an entertaining and popular author, who while he was widely read, effected no significant change. The most widely read modern organ addressing the same issues now re-runs many of this author’s articles, demonstrating, they believe the historical validity of the problems still unsolved. Canadian Senator Anne Cools – the longest serving Canadian senator, and the founder of the country’s first women’s shelter speaks frequently on issues affecting men in the Canadian senate. When she does, she is applauded by her colleagues in the senate, and then they vote against her.

Just like the readership of Belfort Bax, 100 years ago, it’s all very interesting – but nobody is actually moved to lift a finger to change anything. Women who benefit from the use of men will not be inconvenienced.

Nobody is unaware that men die earlier. Nobody is unaware that men lack basic civil rights such as reproductive self determination, the right to not finance a woman’s unilateral decision to use his sperm and wallet. Nobody is unaware of the 4 to 1 suicide rate. Nobody is unaware that infant boys are routinely mutilated – a trauma resulting in life long damage to their cognitive function.

Nobody is unaware that law increasingly degrades the civil rights of men, pushing them further into status of a social underclass. But neither men nor women will respond to any of this knowledge with rational rejection of the destructive cultural and legal conventions comprising what we call “society”.
How stupid do we have to be to republish Ernest Belfort Bax a century later, or watch a senior senator applauded and then casually voted down, and learn nothing from the lesson.

Reason can occasionally move an individual. It will have no impact on a society. A person may be rational – people, in plural are not.

So, I support feminism in their real but unacknowledged project. It’s the goal that the feminist ideology and movement is actually serious about, and making real progress towards.

The goal of feminism is to drive men towards hatred of women. When men hate women they have previously always served, then men might finally act to protect themselves from them.

Those of you MRAs, MGTOWs and others who actively hate women, you are feminism’s success stories.

I thank you all for your very kind attention, and please have a lovely day.

Them Bitches be Shady

Publisher’s Note:

Rather than welcoming a new contributor at Community Organized Compassion and Kindness, I’d like to welcome back a friend. Natasha Douglas is a writer, videographer and a powerful voice in her own right. After a brief hiatus, she has chosen to use C.O.C.K. as her platform for a few timely observations.

~JH

Very early in my time learning about men’s rights issues I came across what turned out to be a common complaint. I have seen this dozens of times since then. It is voiced in different words each time but in its most basic terms men were complaining that Female Men’s Rights Activists (MRAs) are given too much recognition for speaking about men’s issues.
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Empowering Women

The female chameleon is a behaviour which most people can recognize when it’s pointed out. But because it preserves a state of deniability in the player – definite identification is a challenging pursuit.

The chameleon wears her point-of-view as a costume. The behaviour is most often seen in celebrities as many public figures use a created persona as part of their marketing and it is widely accepted with minimal criticism. What a Katy Perry or a Beyonce Knowles really thinks is of barely trivial concern. But the beliefs these public personalities portray might change from one marketing move to the next.
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Staring Into the Abyss

“Women have always been the primary victims of war. Women lose their husbands, their fathers, their sons in combat. Women often have to flee from the only homes they have ever known. Women are often the refugees from conflict and sometimes, more frequently in today’s warfare, victims. Women are often left with the responsibility, alone, of raising the children.”

This is what Hillary Clinton said in 1998 in El Salvador at a conference on domestic violence. It has resonated among men’s activists for decades. And they have wrestled with the obvious insanity of that statement ever since.
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What Can Pussy Buy You?

Have you ever heard a woman complain that she couldn’t get any action?

It’s a more common problem than you’d think. In fact, it’s more common that women say this than men do. That seems strange doesn’t it? After all, it is men who are the most overt seekers of sex, and women who are the arbiters of who is getting some and who isn’t.

But men rarely make the “I cant get any” complaint. Rarely because it is an admission of failure. It is a statement of lowered social status.

But isn’t a woman admitting to social ineptitude as well?

Not exactly. Continue reading What Can Pussy Buy You?