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Trust Women

Guys, you’re screwed.

You might think you’re the ones doing the screwing. After all, this is the story repeated to you, and about you in almost all current mainstream discussions of male and female sexual interface. Rape culture is a fantasy about your sexuality. The so-called objectification of women is widely protested. And if you’re unclear about just what that is, it’s you, brother, turning women into non-person things for your gratification. It’s certainly not the conversion of you into a cash dispensing appliance, in which femininity is used to manipulate your spending and behaviour.

And when it get’s down to actual humping, who’s the gatekeeper there? Who is in charge of whether boy and girl get down on a saturday night. If you think men are calling the shots, you’re delusional. Men canvass, and beg, and maneuver and manipulate, and pay, and pander to get a leg over but it’s when she wants to screw that you’re going to get some. And when she doesn’t want any, you are going to be patient, and say that’s ok. And if you don’t like that, we have jail for guys who cant take a hint.

But women don’t just control sex. They also have the only legal voice in reproduction. After all, it’s her body, and therefore, her choice. That jargon is still widely used in the political argument over access to on demand abortion. Left out of the popular political rhetoric is that if it’s his wallet, it’s also her choice. It’s his semen, but also her choice, and his desire to not be a father against his will, that’s her legal choice too.

Did I mention, guys, that you’re screwed? And not in the fun way.

Because what if she uses your semen to get pregnant, whether she stole it from your condom, whether she lied about being on the pill, or whether it was actually just accidental. Why do we will still describe her choice to become pregnant and her choice to remain pregnant with the words “he got her pregnant”.

There is no self actualization in that for her, she’s a passive receptacle of your all powerful sexual organ. And that this bears no resemblance to the real power dynamic of sexual gatekeeping doesn’t matter at all. This is the unexamined myth. The story that you are the decider. Why else would we have myths like rape culture, patriarchy theory. Why do we have an idiotic concept that men sexually manipulated by pictures of perky boobs are turning women into objects, rather than those men being exploited?

But screwing and baby making are barely even the beginning. We also have the courts, the education system, entertainment industry, government and family courts all informed by female-centric ideology. This wouldn’t be a problem, except that this ideology includes an irrational malice towards men.

Based only on the accusation of a woman, our society will destroy the life and livelihood of any man of who it is whispered: rapist. Conviction in a court of law is not needed, accusation is guilt.

Domestic abuse in which the victim does not leave after one incident means it is two people, and not just one responsible for the continuation of a violent relationship. To presume that an adult woman in such situations are powerless is to cast for her the role of a child.
And intimate partner violence’s propaganda, in denial of equal commission by men and women, uses the misleading term violence against women.

Due to populist myth and scorn of male identity, women face little consequence for the use of lies about threats or violence to strip men of their freedom, property or children.

But, of course, in observing this obvious fact – we are told that of course women don’t lie about such things. Because, um, what they’re innately innocent or something. But this rebuttal denigrates women – denying them their full humanity, which includes the capability to be just as evil as the next villain you can name.

But to conclude that women are simply, or innately evil is to miss the point entirely. Women as a group are neither inherently “bad” or “good”, just as men too are also simply people. Some are malicious, some are good, but all are flawed to some degree regardless of their sex.

But, where advantage can be taken by individuals within a system, it will be. Because of this, and the climate vilifying of men elevating of women; the greater incentive for allowable exploitation lies with women. So while there are many women of amoral character, it is the socially and legally tilted playing field of social reality which invalidates men’s ability to trust women. Not the positive, negative, or the indifferent character of individual women.

As a relationship fails, each person exiting that relationship is going to evaluate and pursue new paths to meet their financial and emotional needs. The same needs which were formerly being fulfilled by that relationship. For women, casual theft of the man’s income is one of the easiest options, without a negative stigma, and with public institutions to enforce his compliance. That so many women take this path should surprise nobody. If men had the same options to exploit women with the cheerful participation of the courts and financial system, then men would earn a reputation equal to that of women. Where advantage can be taken, it will be.

The odds in this system are stacked against any outcome except betrayal and destruction. Certainly, many women are not unethical, nor are seeking to exploit men’s sub-person status in society. Unfortunately, many women are quite pleased to exploit male destructive outcomes on an opportunistic basis. There is no social or legal de-motivator for those who would exploit the system women now enjoy.
But worse than lack of disincentive for harmful behaviour is a social narrative which provides positive feedback for antisocial conduct. That narrative relies on on a maintained belief in the victim status of women. Attack rhetoric about toxic masculinity and the suffering of women justifies her retaliation against an endless male war against women.

The reality of no actual anti woman war is of no consequence, in social reality. The woman filing a false accusation is noble – standing up for her rights, and not simply a predatory criminal exploiting the credulity of the public and the courts.

In the system where all men are bad, and all women are good, she is a heroic. She becomes the brave victim who turned the tables on a predator when she stole your house, or had you jailed on a fraudulent charge.
A quirk of human behaviour is that people given positive social feedback for an action will believe that action is noble, even if it is objectively monstrous.

So why would she even feel guilty, when her social group lauds her heroism for what is arguably criminal, predatory, and amoral opportunism?

And men can’t reasonably trust women in this system.

But that social system, or the social reality contributing to this problem is built on a set of overlapping myths. The first of these is the idea of the innate goodness of women. This fairly simplistic conception rises out of the attitude of worship by small children of their mothers.

Where a child’s mother is the primary caregiver, the first source of nourishment, it’s easy to see how the female becomes a universal good.

This shows up in many ways, including the tender years doctrine, in female goddess rhetoric, and other idiotic but still popular ideas.

The idea that women are innately innocent and non-threatening helps tilt the playing field on which all fault is male, and all victimhood is female. And yes, I know it sounds stupid when expressed in simple terms. It sounds stupid because it is stupid.

For some men shedding their cultural programming replace myth of women’s innate victimhood with the idea of female innate evil. And departure from the naive belief in the fundamental good and innocence of women can inform a more self preserving behaviour in men. But it is not a step towards comprehension to replace one innate behaviour with simply another innate behaviour.

But the problem of trust in relations between men and women is still unanswered.

If men and women are going to carry on together (and they are) and end up in each other’s lives, beds and dwellings, (and they are) then an alternative model is needed. And this model must depart from the vision of female innate purity, and malevolent male aggression.

And it will not be women now in control of social reality who make this change. Why would they, when a myth of their own innate innocence and natural goodness serves them as a social caste so well?

The problem of trust in relationships is a problem for men, which men will have to solve.

One approach is to treat women as if they are men.

Whatever she is doing, whatever she is saying – here is the question for you to ask yourself.

Would you accept her behaviour if she was a man?